Hanuman – a symbol of Hope

panchamukha3If you are in difficulty or trouble or in depression, elders suggest you to read sundar kanda. Do you know why? It has a lot of spiritual and religious significance, of course. But, it has a lot more significance from a psychological and personality development point of view.

When Hanuman was depressed…

In Sundar Kanda, Hanuman went in search of Mother Sita. He was the only one in his search team who could cross the ocean and reach Ravan’s Lanka. In Lanka, he searched every nook and corner but couldn’t find Sita. He was very depressed about it as he knew the consequences. While sending teams for searching Sita, it was Sugreeva’s order that all the monkeys be beheaded if they came back without finding Sita. Rama was in sorrow and would give up his life if Sita wasn’t found. Obviously, his brother Lakshmana would follow him.

Hanuman didn’t want all this to happen. So, he thought, instead of going back, it was better to commit suicide there. All of them would survive waiting for Hanuman to come back. However, he regained his spirits. Decided to search again as there was no point in dying as nothing would be achieved with death. At that point of time, he saw Ashok vatika, which he didn’t search before. So, he entered the vatika. And he found mother Sita there.

Not just regained but instilled hope

See the plight of Sita when he found her. Ravan just spoke to her in a filthy and scary language. She lost hope and decided to commit suicide. She used her long hair as a rope to tie her throat and die. Exactly at that moment, Hanuman started telling the story of Rama sitting on the tree. Sita got her hope back. Hanuman went back and gave the good news of finding Sita to Rama, Sugreeva and the other monkey force. All of them regained hope.

This is the significance of Sundar Kanda. Hanuman, who was about to die, gave himself hope. He gave Sita, who was about to die, the hope of life. He gave the news of whereabouts of Sita to Rama, and gave him hope. And this gave the hope of life to Sugreeva and other monkeys.

Read Sundarakanda

So, anyone, who lost hope in life, should read Sundar Kanda. Even if you exhausted all your options, you will get some ray of hope, if you try again. Every problem, small or big, has a solution. You just have to try all possible solutions. And if you fail in all your attempts, don’t lose hope. Just try again. That’s the message of Sundar Kanda. And that’s the message of Hanuman.

Jai Hanuman!

Hanuman – the master communicator – Communication lessons from Ramayana Part – 2

In Sundara Kanda, Hanuman returned from Lanka after seeing Sita. All the other monkeys from his search group were waiting anxiously at the other end of the ocean. He told them that he could locate Sita in Lanka. He told them about how he reached Lanka. How he searched for Sita. How he fought with demons there and how he met Ravana. What he spoke with Ravana and how he set Lanka on fire. But not a single word about what he spoke with Sita and her message to Rama.

The whole group felt happy. They went back to Rama. Rama was anxiously waiting for Hanuman and the other group. All the other groups have already reached back without finding Sita. So, this group of Hanuman led by Angada was the only hope.

Hanuman told Rama ‘Drushtwa Sita’. ‘I have seen Sita’. Hanuman knows very well that Rama would be waiting for this message. Hence he started with what is the most important to convey. Then he narrated the whole story of how he found her, what was her plight in Lanka, what did he talk to her and what was her message back to Rama. He didn’t talk about how he reached Lanka and how he fought with demons etc.

What to speak to whom is very important in communication. And this is the best example of the same. The other monkeys in the group need not know about Hanuman’s conversation with Sita and her message. And there was no need to describe¬†about Hanuman’s bravery in reaching Lanka to Rama. And Hanuman, the master communicator, handled the communication accordingly.

Are you mechanizing your Child’s brain?

This summer season, many summer camps are held for children. Things like abacus, spellbee, swimming, music etc. The objective is to ensure that children learn something without wasting summer holidays. They are anyway in a bigger rush to learn things during their school days. The parents are so anxious to make children learn so many things so that they win the rat race that they are running in the current society. The children are in a rush to learn many things and are always occupied with something or the other.

But the question is, ‘when do they think?’

By pushing them into so many things, we are only ensuring that they don’t have time to play or spend time with friends and relatives. In that process, we are also ensuring that they don’t have time to think. In other words, we are mechanizing their brains.

Marks, marks and more marks…

While it is good to get good marks, getting good marks only is not good enough to survive in this world. It is far more important to think. It is far more important to have common sense. It is far more important to face new challenges with confidence and find simple solutions to complicated problems. Above all it is far more important to be more sensible and responsible. All this comes with thinking. And the current generation of kids, sadly, seem to be losing the ability to think.

Do you agree?

Probably many parents don’t agree with me. Some might agree in principle reluctantly. In any case, our goal is to find out what is the best thing that we could do to our kids. We are trying to do some study and provide more information on this topic, but before that want to hear from. Please provide your thoughts, preferences and any other comments.

 

Angada in Ravana’s darbar – Communication lessons from Ramayana – Part 1

Angada in the darbar of Ravana

(story as told by Swamy Ranganadhananda of Ramakrishna Math)

This story was from Ramayana. Rama along with his monkey forces crossed the ocean and reached Lanka. The war was about to begin between Rama and Ravana. Rama wanted to make a last attempt for peace. He sent Angada, who is son of Vali, as a messenger to convey his message of peace to Ravana. Vali (father of Angada) was killed by Rama earlier in Kishkindha Kanda. Vali when alive was a close of friend of Ravana. However, Angada was a staunch supporter of Rama and a trusted soldier of Rama.

When Angada reached the darbar of Ravana, Ravana wanted to remind him that his father was killed by Rama and hence his support to Rama was a disservice to his father. The plan was to put Angada on a defensive mode and make his mission weaker.

On seeing Angada, Ravana said, ‘welcome Angada! you are my best friend’s son. How is your father?’.

His plan was to make Angada tell him about his father’s death in the hands of Rama. And then make him guilty of representing his father’s killer.

Now, see the beauty of Angada’s reply. He said, ‘Ravana, you will get the opportunity to directly inquire his welfare face to face, if you don’t listen to my words now’. In other words, Angada said that Ravana would die and meet his father if he didn’t listen to him. Not only he effectively defeated the purpose of Ravana asking that question, but also conveyed the message of Rama in the same answer. A best example for effective communication. Our children can learn much more personality improvement skills from our epics than what then can learn from the modern day books. We just have to introduce them to those great epics.

Common parenting mistakes of Indian parents

Young Indians today are ruder than they were 10 years ago

Claimed by recent article in ‘Times Of India’ which further says: “all because of poor parenting”.

As an Indian and as a parent, nothing can be more offending for me than blaming Indian parenting. But is there any truth in what they are saying or is it completely baseless allegation?

There were many instances of children behaving erratically pointing fingers at Indian parenting. So, there is some truth in the allegation that Indian parenting is not up to the mark. Do you agree?

But…

  • How come the parenting that gifted Mahatma Gandhi and Swami Vivekananda to the world, became poor parenting now?
  • How come the land of Rama and Buddha is not considered as a place for best parenting?
  • How come the home to the only religion that¬†worships females as goddesses is losing its ground as a home for best morals?

Probably, we are moving away from our roots

We are not telling our children about our rich culture and heritage. We are not teaching them about our values and morals. We are not introducing them to our great treasures of wisdom like Ramayana and Panchatantra. Even if we are doing to some extent, we are not doing enough to make them understand our value system.

The issue is, in the current digital world where the kids are addicted to gadgets, how to attract their attention towards story listening? Very difficult. How do we get their attention?

We need to tell them in their language. i.e. digital language. Through modern methods.

Here is the article that talks about poor parenting making Indians rude